Half a year ago I spent my time scrolling YouTube. I found a video with a very intriguing title “The person you really need to marry”. It was a TED-talk, spoken by a woman who was married three times, had some relationships and at the moment has a boyfriend. The reason why every marriage failed was not in her partners. Tracy McMillan, the speaker, understood that all the relationships could end happily, if only she built a trusted relationship with one special person. That person was herself.
Marrying yourself means to commit yourself with all your flaws and feel whole. As said Tracy, marrying yourself is not just for a couple of years. We live with ourselves till death. Until that moment comes, we should accept the fact, that sometimes there are failures and achievements, but we should love ourselves without depending on circumstances. For better or for worse. Loving yourself means to pay attention to whether you feel comfortable in this situation with these people or not. It is putting your needs and feelings higher than society’s opinion. We have to love ourselves the way we want someone else to love us. Low self-esteem is the root of every bad relationship.
I see many people searching for their special person, their pair and a half. The problem is that we are already one unit. The unit that has its desires, personal qualities and a vision of the world. Sometimes I was envy for my classmates or friends for having boyfriends and girlfriends. They were going for dates, giving each other presents and many more relationship stuff. I wanted to have a person who can always support and love me, comfort and care about me. But this someone was near. Yeah, that was me. You are the only person who knows what you need or what is better for you. Why do you still try to get someone’s love when you got yourself right there?
This mini-article is more like a monologue. I am not as perfect as I wanted to be, so I sacrifice about every part of me. It is hard to love yourself, you need courage and time. I am still working on my self-esteem, I have downs and destructing thoughts. Nobody said it would be easy. So cheer up and go love yourself. Are you married? Cause I am already.
erverta 